huckleberry
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| 05/16/2017 02:58 PM |
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My mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, so we are selling our home here in Mexico and heading back to Washington State to be near her.
Looking to build again in the Methow, but also considering heading to Walla Walla as the housing prices are fairly affordable and I don't know how energetic I am to build a house solo again.
Anybody with experience there?
Thanks! |
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Cosmic Kid
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| 05/16/2017 03:28 PM |
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No experience and no advice, but very sorry to hear about your mom. She clearly did a good job raising you for you to be moving back to be near her.
Best wishes.
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| Just say "NO!" to WCP!!!!
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huckleberry
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| 05/16/2017 03:57 PM |
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Thanks, CK.
I still don't remember what side of the plate what silverware goes... My fault or hers ; ) |
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Dale
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| 05/16/2017 04:29 PM |
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Zero input on the house but, like CK, you're a stand up guy to move back to the states to help with her care.
Is the Little Giant vacuum cleaner company still based there? 
(testing the cartoon trivia buffs)
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huckleberry
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| 05/16/2017 06:25 PM |
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| Dale - We'll be bringing a couple of Little Giant sales reps with us if we move there... Meow... |
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smokey52
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| 05/16/2017 07:37 PM |
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forks on the left, knife and spoons on the right. placed in order of use from outside to plate. for forks, that means salad/appetizer, dinner, and dessert left to right. for spoons, soup and/or pasta and dessert & coffee/tea right to left. more if needed.
The father-in-law had Alzheimers and dementia. It was sad to see him fade. He knew the curtain was drawing closed -- he lost words in the middle of a sentence and got quite frustrated. The blessings were when the window to his mind was open. He was from Italy. I went into Wikipedia Italian version and brought up pictures and stories from his youth. He got very engaged. |
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longslowdistance
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| 05/16/2017 09:46 PM |
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| Echoing Smokey. Consider assembling a Memory Book. |
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Cosmic Kid
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| 05/17/2017 06:42 AM |
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I am by no means experienced in the care of loved ones with Alzheimer's, but my grandfather had dementia in his later years Andy it was very difficult. We had always had an extremely close relationship and it was hard on me.
The hardest part for me was the depiction of comments and questions that could go on for a whole meal, hours, etc. Saying things like "you just asked me that" was useless and I never once said it. So I made up a challenge for myself to find new ways to answer the same questions. I wasn't changing the answers in terms of the information...I still gave him the same response basically, but it would just be framed differently. It helped me deal with the situation, kept me relaxed and not frustrated, etc. more importantly, it kept him engaged....I would just go with the conversation and dig into whatever story he was relating. I found out some pretty cool information during these talks with him. |
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huckleberry
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| 05/17/2017 07:44 AM |
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| Thanks, guys. I can already see how the advice would be applicable. |
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Spud
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| 05/18/2017 01:32 PM |
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| Sorry to hear that news Huck. We currently have my mother-in-law, who has dementia, living with us. I guess now it is our turn to repay our parents for taking care of us. Best of luck to you and yours. |
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huckleberry
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| 05/18/2017 07:59 PM |
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| Thanks, Spud. |
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smokey52
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| 05/20/2017 07:52 PM |
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| A few more recommendations: Spoil your mom. Forget about long-term issues like balanced diet. Over-indulgance or a bit of wine is okay. If she wants to smoke, let her (just not around oxygen). Not to be gross, but the biggest issue with diet is keeping regular in the balance between constipation and diarrhea. Physical discomfort should be avoided. Even with her decline, respect her dignity and return the love she has given you over your lifetime. |
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